CPLD day 8

[LaurenClay]

Fingers crossed this works (new laptop)

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[mannsam@aol.com]

Below is a great link to the NCC Behaviour and Self Regulation padlet with lots of resources for child well-being and behaviour support
https://padlet.com/janeycraigs/yvefxbqepuzlrsvo

This may be of use to some of you who are researching child well-being as part of you change project. For me it has been very useful to support the challenging post COVID behaviour that some of our children are currently showing……

[LM1234]

Welcome to Holland:

I remember being shown this extract during my very first lecture at University, where I studied Special Education and it has honestly stuck with me ever since. I have even shared this with a parent of a child who I previously worked with who was finding her child’s diagnosis really difficult. We had a very good relationship and she shared many of her concerns and upset with me and she explained to me how much reading this helped her to see things in a different, more positive way. I think that reading this extract really makes you consider how the parent is feeling when their child is given a diagnosis which is something that they weren’t expecting and prepared for. To me, it makes me see my job role as far more than caring for the children but also ensuring to support the families in the best way that I can. It is about getting to know the child, but also the family, and identify their needs and what I can do to best support them. Whether that’s providing information and advice, being open and honest (yet positive) at handovers, celebrating all of the little achievements, or just being an ear to listen and not judge! As we said during our last CPLD day, the parents are the experts of their children, and their views and opinions should always be listened to and taken seriously, especially when they have gone through a difficult journey that they did not expect to go on.

Lara x

[LM1234]

Reflective log – 2 year checks,

Lara.

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[Tim Keasley]

What a helpful metaphor. I think it captures the complicated mix of emotions really well – surprise, confusion, sadness, joy and the constant sense of living in a parallel world to most of the people around you.

I’m still relatively new in my current job and am just starting to meet parents and form those partnerships. This piece highlights a number of important elements for me.

‘Everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy.’ Nursery is a place where you meet lots of different families and this has the potential to bring all of your concerns into sharper focus. It’s important to recognise that Nursery isn’t necessarily an emotionally neutral space for all families and to be sensitive to this.

Families of children with SEND are likely to be dealing with some degree of shock. There’s also the potential for denial and so it may take some time for parents/carers to accept the situation. As Amanda mentioned last session, regular effective communication should mean that these kinds of topics don’t come as a shock and that together you build up a picture of the child over a sustained period of time.

I think its really important to speak about these issues without judgement. As the story say, ‘it’s just a different place,’ with different tulips, not gondolas. I think pointing out the positives risks devaluing the legitimate feelings of pain and grief families may be feeling. In time, families will notice the beautiful things for themselves which will be more meaningful. It makes me think of the parallels with child led learning – the learning we do ourselves is the most meaningful. As practitioners we need to support families with open communication.

[zoejestico]

This was such an emotional read, it highlight just how important as practitioners we support the parents around us. I know from previous experience that being there to be someone to talk to can help dramatically for a parent, to understand that how we tell the parents things about their Childs development needs to be done in such way were it isn’t a shock. I always remember my Mother in law telling me a story about my Husband who has Cerebral Palsy, she got called into the nursery office to be told about how her son wasn’t developing correctly and was slower than all of the other children, however on all of the hand overs she was always told he has be ‘fine’ even though this wasn’t a shock to her as she knew he had a development delay, it was the way in which she was called into the office. This has always been in the back of my mind when I am having to discuses things with parents.

[zoejestico]

Reflective log for Two- Year progress check

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[EmmaThornton]

2 year check reflection

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[Rosieewles13]

My two-year check reflective log attached

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[linhquanscitt2020]

Here’s my 2 year check reflective log

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[Jade]

2 year progress check reflective log

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[KathrynLlewelyn]

2 year check reflective log

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[sarahcampbell]

My two year reflection

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[katieaustin@e.essexprimaryscitt.co.uk]

Hello, I am a little bit late to the party because I had to sign off after the last CPLD day and I’ve just realised that I never ended up uploading my thoughts on Welcome to Holland.

Coming at this topic from a totally outside perspective, not being a mother at all and not having much teacher-parent contact with the parents of our SEND children, I found this work really eye opening and it made me feel really quite emotional. I think that the metaphor of comparing the countries in place of the different lifestyles is really thought provoking, as it allows insight into both the positives and negatives of being a parent of a SEND child. I like the reiteration that it is not necessarily a negative thing, it is just different and unexpected, and the metaphor allows me to understand the feelings of the parents more, as the Holland/Italy situation, at this moment in time is easier for me to imagine.

This poem has definitely highlighted the importance of providing support for the parents who are going through their unexpected journey, whether it is offering our own advice or pointing them in the direction of other support systems. I understand now how vital it is for the parents to not feel alone in this journey as I have not stopped to consider how it must feel to be comparing your child to everyone else all the time. This poem is definitely something I will be sharing with the girls at work, as I think they will find it as eye-opening as I did.
Thanks Nicky

[katieaustin@e.essexprimaryscitt.co.uk]

My 2 year check reflective log.

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